I thought this video would lighten things up a little since we are considering some of the worst things you need to be aware of when dating and more specifically online dating, this will help to show some of the funny ways, us guys, chat up the girls to get that date.
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We all have one common goal when it comes to dating online and that is to find romance. Online dating can be enjoyable and there is plenty of evidence that it can also be an effective way to find your soul mate.
Millions of people visit online dating sites every month and a large number of those visiting also join to find their true love. When it comes to using online dating sites there are a few things you can do so as to be more productive and achieve better results.
Initially if the person you are communicating with does not have a photo on their profile proceed with caution. I would at this point ask them for an up to date photo.
Which leads me to the next point, without a photograph on your profile you will get far fewer responses. So if you want more people to reply to your online dating ad then post a photo and not one that is years old.
When chatting with a person online for the first time, keep it brief and to the point. I am not suggesting that you be cold but the main thing you want to do is get a feel for that person. By keeping it brief you can suggest a time to chat again and see if they follow through.
If they like you they will and more importantly you will get to see if they are committed to their word. Additionally if they do not follow up then you will have saved yourself a lot of time as this will be an indicator that they may be just interested in a quick hit.
When you get beyond the chatting phase and it’s time to meet then it is always wise to do so in a populated area. Secondly drive yourself to the date and don’t be afraid to suggest bringing a friend along as they may provide valuable insights and furthermore it gives you an additional line of defense.
If your date does not show up you and your friend can enjoy a coffee. Also on the first date keep it short. You do not want to spend too much money and time with somebody who in person does not seem right for you.
It is ok to communicate with multiple people when searching for your soul mate, however if you are in a one to one chat then do not chat with others at the same time. This can get you in trouble, especially when try and remember what you were talking about with that person.
Lastly if you think you have found the right person take your profile down, you don’t have to delete it as you can use it again later if things work out.
When it comes to online dating etiquette there are a few things you need to keep in mind so that all parties concerned can have a respectful interaction. When it comes time to communicate such using e-mails, you will often find that people can be fickle.
Basically out of every e-mail you send expect about a twenty percent response rate. If you make a commitment to communicate with someone at a given time then make sure you honor that commitment.
1/ It is ok to e-mail with multiple contacts, however when in direct communication with somebody via instant messenger then it is more respectful to communicate with just them rather than communicating with multiple people at the same time.
2/ It is ok not to respond back to e-mails if you do not want to however if you do make a commitment, follow through and if it is not to your liking then politely make the point of saying that you no longer wish to communicate.
3/ In your communications do not be insulting, we are human beings after all and we all have feelings, there is no reason to be rude and obnoxious. Treat each other as if you were communicating face to face.
4/ When dating online there is nothing wrong with meeting several people casually to find your perfect mate, with that said when you do meet with someone you like do not leave your profile up as if you are still looking.
This is not fair to the other person and furthermore if they see that your profile is still live then they may think that you’re not that interested or worse still think that you are scamming them.
When you take your profile off line you do not have to delete it, you can save it and post it again later if things do not work out.
5/ Do not post pictures on your profile that are old, post your most recent photo. It is not fair to deceive others just to get what you want. One way to look at it is this, treat others how you want to be treated.
There is no question that online dating can be fun and rewarding and without a doubt it is a great way to find your perfect partner. Every month millions of people visit online dating sites. Many of those who join these sites end up getting married.
It is generally stated that the online dating medium is safe however there are as always people lurking in the background who only have one thing in mind and that is to prey on others for their personal gain.
This can take many forms, there are those who are married and just want to have a date on the side to satisfy their own desires and there are individuals who will want to take your money or worst still harm you in one way or another.
When it comes to your safety online the first thing you need to do is trust your instinct, if it does not feel right then do not go any further. As you communicate with others you may get a feeling that something just isn’t right and if so do not pursue it any further.
This may sound like common sense, but as you begin to communicate with others do not feel it necessary to give out personal details early on in the communication. It may be wise to set up an e-mail account strictly for your online dating correspondence and it is also smart to use the dating sites communication tools at first.
When it comes to taking your communication to the next level do not give out your phone number instead use an online communication tool such as Skype or any other instant messenger.
Always be on the lookout for red flags, if there is no picture posted then proceed with caution. Also be aware of how they are communicating, is the communication erratic, passive, controlling or overbearing. Set up times to communicate and see if the other person keeps their word. Bottom line, test the waters and do so regularly.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions, and if you find those questions get avoided then you may be linking up with the wrong individual. Also you can ask for their most recent photograph and ask when the photo was taken.
When it comes to online dating safety it is generally better to stick with the paid online dating sites as they generally speaking have better screenings. Plus when somebody pays for the service one could say that they are more serious about finding a genuine date. Also because they have paid there will be more tracing evidence available in the event something goes wrong.
Last but nonetheless least never get picked up on your first date and meet in a public place, generally speaking a place where there is a large concentration of people, Keep the first date short and sweet and don’t be afraid to ask a friend along.
Ok let’s drill down into some interesting online dating statistics. It may surprise you to know that a lot of people seek love online. In actual fact it is reported that twenty million people engage in online dating sites in one way or another per month.
When asked almost seventy percent of people would use an online dating service to find their partner.
The next question is out of that twenty million how many folks take it to the next stage, in other words get serious in their relationship and commit to marriage? On a per year bases it is suggested that over a hundred thousand couples tie the knot in relationships that were created online.
Out of the twenty million people who visit an online dating site per month it is estimated that around ten to fifteen percent of those people pay for a listing on a dating site.
Out of those polled who join these sites twelve percent of them said that a person’s smile was one of the most important characteristics of their desired partner. This was in second place. Number one was personality; looks came in at eleven percent.
With that said on the first date looks were said to be very important by thirty eight percent of the people polled. Personality then dropped to second place and smile still stayed in there at around ten percent.
Then an interesting statistic almost contradicted that by saying that over sixty percent of people think that looks and appearance matter. What one could draw from that is this, appearance, as in being scruffy or not can be a deciding factor when coupled with looks.
On the first date seventy eight percent of people are of the opinion that the person they meet with is not being one hundred percent genuinely honest. Basically over sixty percent of people believe that they cannot trust the person they are meeting on the first date.
It was also interesting to see that fifty nine percent of people were of the notion that meeting a person they really like is difficult, either online or offline. Then to top that off sixty percent said that people’s expectations are too high.
That to me was interesting due to the fact that if it is hard to meet a person you like then it is strange to then turn around and say that people’s expectations are too high, so maybe we ourselves are too judgmental and expect too much of other folks.
In terms of being single thirty five percent of people stated that they don’t mind and an equal number of thirty five percent said they hate it.
The resource I used for these online dating statistics or dating statistics in general was topdatingtips.com, I honestly thought they were interesting and quite telling in many respects, I hope you will also find them interesting.
